GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD
Today I want to talk about, how to shift your mindset. There are lots of books and resources online that speak about mindset, and how to shift your mindset, ‘CEO mindset’, ‘BOSS mindset’, but no-one actually tells you how to do it. So how do you shift your fixed mindset to a progressive mindset.
People who have a fixed mindset are the ones that believe that their current situation and reality is the only option. Those are the cards that are dealt for them and they almost seem to stay in a box. People who have a progressive mindset are usually open to new opportunities and see experiences as lessons and room for growth.
It is absolutely 100% possible to shift from a fixed to a progressive mindset which requires training your mind. There are two fundamental things that need to happen to make this shift. For some reason, it never is made obvious on the internet and people hardly speak about it in any books.
Today, I want to explicitly explain the technique I use in my coaching practice with my clients to help them achieve a progressive mindset.
The first part is acceptance.
You need to accept that the voice in your head is not you. That voice in your head is a inner critique, ego. A voice in your head that is made up of self-doubt and fear. So the first thing you need to do is accept that you are not your thoughts. That might sounds weird as your mind is part of who you are. However the thoughts in your head are an assumption or not hard facts.
For example, you might have said something in your meeting and thought that it came across as silly. At this point the voice in your head is saying ‘everyone is looking at you and think you are dumb’. You leave the meeting feeling that everyone thinks you’re an idiot and confide in your colleague who has no idea what you are talking about.
The second thing you need to do is identify the voice and name it. You can name this voice as ANYTHING you want.
For example, let’s say you name the internal dialogue as ‘Tracey’. So Tracey likes to creep in when I am thinking about ta new opportunity or a new challenge, or thinking about something that scares me.
By naming her Tracey and detached myself from her, I can now talk to her. I can recognise that this is not me. So think about a situation for you when your inner critic pops up - what does Tracey say?
‘Are you sure you want to do that?’
‘Do you feel like you have enough experience to do that?’
‘You are going to fail’
To tackle the incessant negative talk and self-doubt, the most eye opening thing to do is write down what Tracey says in these situations and rewrite it. Talk back to Tracey.
‘Im a beginner and I am going to do everything I can to get this job’
‘I will work really hard to build all the experience I need’
‘What if I succeed and smash this’
What happens over time, the more you aware of this voice and more you speak back to her, overtime, YOUR voice becomes louder than Tracey. You start to speak with conviction and Tracey becomes a whisper. She will always be there, but you have identified that the fear and doubt is not real.
This is how you start shifting to a progressive mindset. And oh my god, when it does really start happening for you then you will be so open to change and new opportunities. You will start saying ‘maybe I can do this, and then some.’
So this is the starting point for you to shift your mindset.
I really hope it works for you and you give your inner critique a funny name and start speaking to them consistently.